Momma, why can't you get married?

This is a question I hope we never have to answer.

We don't post rainbow flags in our yard, we don't run around yelling to others about gay rights, and we don't care what others think about our lifestyle. In fact, I hardly ever realize we're gay! I'm 'married' to my best friend like many others I know, so I am blind to any difference.  However, with a baby on the way I am more aware of inequalities and how they will affect our little one.  HE is the one that will have to answer questions in school and possibly get picked on... Although, here in California I think that is less likely to occur. I don't want to have to explain these differences to him.
It is the parents of other children that set the precedent and breed ignorance. I am really hoping for a federal legalization of gay marriage. I don't want it just in California.. I feel we are lucky to be in a more liberal state, but I feel horrible for those back in my home region, and close-minded states, whose governments are still fighting Domestic Partnerships. Unless we go federal they will not stand a chance. Their children will be asking the same questions as mine...

The problem is that people feel entitled to their right to get married, and for it to remain between a man and a woman.  ENTITLED. I just love that word.... Let me tell you, the founding fathers felt rather entitled to write what suited them best, to our benefit or loss, but times have changed.  We allow our country to grow along with technology and innovations in medicine, but what we leave behind is equality for the humans that make these innovations possible! We don't really have the RIGHT to do anything.. How egotistical of us Americans!!   Those in other countries then, should have the RIGHT to eat, and to feel safe, and to speak their minds without fear of death...  This is an issue of a level playing field, no one should have different 'rights' than others in ANY REGARD.
We are privileged, that is all.

The supposed sanctity of marriage will not be damaged by a gay invasion!! GAYVASION!!!
My parent's generation, some of them, are on their 3rd, 4th, and 5th time around... And of course, some in the gay community will make stupid rash decisions just like some heterosexual couples... Hello, 16 and pregnant AND married!!! Why can someone run to Vegas, drunk, and get married, just to annul it later, but I can't marry my baby's mom?!? It's rather silly to me that it bothers anyone... I know it will be a game changer, and it will affect more than what we realize... But it's time people! I can set my DVR from my phone, and I can track my dog with a microchip, and we put a man on the moon, AND cars no longer use just gas.. but I can't get married??  It's just a simple PRIVILEGE that people take for granted, that means the world to so many...

I do understand that it's a hard transition for a good many people. I grew up thinking marriage was only for a man and a woman also... so does it sometimes feel weird when a woman calls another woman her wife, or when a man calls another man his husband.. Well yeah.. Admitting that doesn't make me any less gay.  If it's different for me, then imagine how others feel that don't live in my world. We educate ourselves on acceptance of others, and eventually these things are the norm.

I just want my kids to not feel different than their friends.. to understand that they can love whoever they choose, and do it with pride, safety, and confidence. ONCE I hope.

I hope one day we look back on this as we did with Women's Suffrage and the African American Civil Rights Movement. It seems unreal that it was ever any other way. I hope my grand kids study the Gay Rights Movement in school one day, in awe that things were ever this way.

I am proud to see so many red equality signs on my Facebook today... And not all from the gay community..  <3


“The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart.”  ~Maya Angelou